Monday, September 15, 2008

is it worth it?

I am absolutely in love with a new song called “Love is Not a Fight” by Warren Barfield. The song is from the soundtrack for the new movie “Fireproof;” a movie about a firefighter who must decide if his struggling marriage is worth trying to salvage. The song talks about love not being a fight but being worth fighting for. I think too many people today see marriage as being a trial situation. If things don’t work out, just get a divorce and find another spouse. I don’t want to come across as too preachy but what about the commitment to “love, honor, and cherish until death do us part”? Is there an escape clause I’m unaware of? I just feel like love and marriage are viewed as ‘phases,’ if you will, that we can move in and out of as easily as we slip on and off a pair of shoes. I understand there are grounds for divorce but how many Hollywood couples do we hear about that divorce after only a few months due to “irreconcilable differences”? I think marriage should be based on commitment because love can fade. However, if committed to each other, a marriage can last because the husband and wife are willing to work to keep the marriage strong and labor to rekindle the love that once burned brightly.

This concept can be applied to other areas of our lives. We all have dreams and desires that are so special to us but when we hit a brick wall, we abandon any hope of achieving them. If a dream is worth fighting for, we’ll not rest until we’ve attained it. We can’t give up just because things don’t go as we plan. We can’t let circumstances dictate how we’ll react in a given situation. The fact of the matter is that life isn’t always going to be easy but doesn’t that make the victories all the more sweeter? 2 Corinthians 1:5 says, “We have plenty of hard times that come from following the Messiah, but no more so than the good times of his healing comfort—we get a full measure of that, too” (Message). My point is that when we really want something, the desire so strong it’s an ache, we can’t give up just because life doesn’t cooperate. We can’t be afraid to step out because we may fail or fall flat on our face. Anything worth having is worth fighting for.

And, for the “with a side of laughter.” Here are some things we wouldn’t know if not for the movies:
~ The ventilation system of any building is the perfect hiding place. No one will ever think of looking for you in there and you can travel to any part of the building you want without difficulty.
~ You’re very likely to survive any battle unless you make the mistake of showing someone a picture of your sweetheart back home.
~ Should you wish to pass yourself off as a German officer, it is not necessary to speak the language; a German accent will do.
~ A man will show no pain while taking the most ferocious beating but will wince when a woman tries to clean his wounds.
~ If someone says, “I'll be right back”…they won't.
~ Computer monitors never display a cursor on the screen but always say: Enter Password Now.
~ A detective can only solve a case once he has been suspended from duty.
~ If you decide to start dancing in the street everyone around you will automatically be able to mirror all the steps you come up with and hear the music in your head.

Here's the music video for the song "Love Is Not a Fight." Enjoy!


  1. i agree with what you said about divorce and people viewing it so casually. Coming from a family in which my parents are together, i can't bring myself to relate to the pain from a divorce, especially to the children.
    Although i do agree that marriage is treated too lightly, i also sadly see the sin that breaks down a marriage. Its so easy to see that marriage was created by God and made to stand on his principals. When one partner steps out from under his cover, it just makes for a sinful mess of pain for everyone involved.

  2. I really like Warren Barfield's music, and this song can truly be applied to dreams. I definitely have dreams I wanted to give up on, tried to give up on, but they keep comiing back to the surface. It's a good reminder to fight for them to come true.

    And your movie list is hilarious! So true about the detectives - and amazing how little trouble they get in for all the laws they skirt around while trying to save the day . (he!)

    - Alicia

  3. I was watching tv today and saw the preview for "Fireproof"! It was so exciting to see this movie advertised where all can see it. I really hope it does well and inspires many to work on their marriage instead of giving up. It's so cool to be a part of something like this by attending the movie and watching how God will use this.